At this time of year, when there is so much pressure and focus on doing things for others, our own wellbeing can become a bit overlooked (both physically and emotionally). It’s a good idea to set some boundaries in December that will help you manage your own (and other’s) expectations.
Give yourself permission to come off social media
If you're struggling with seeing pictures of matching PJs and family activities, particularly during the holidays, remember that you get to choose the things you let into your life (the things you see and read). Keep in touch with friends and loved ones via text or phone calls so you still have social contact.
Make balanced festive lifestyle choices
It’s ok to indulge in some festive treats (chocolates, festive tipples and mince pies) over Christmas time, but try to balance the treats with healthy meals and limited alcohol over the festive period to help your body be in its best state for conceiving. If you are keeping it balanced you can enjoy the treats guilt free!
Say no to things that will be too triggering
Take the pressure off, you don’t have to go to something if you think it will be too hard and upsetting. Make up an excuse and don’t feel guilty, just do what you feel happy with.
Limit the time you spend at places if you don’t want to miss out
Make up a reason why you need to leave early, so that you’ve shown your face, but you can manage the amount of time you are in a situation that is challenging for you.
Don't put too much pressure on yourself
Especially if you are going through treatment. Plan in advance so you can work around medications, and feel ok with saying no to things that will make sticking to medication timings difficult.
Decide how much you’re happy to tell people about what you are going through
It can help you avoid awkward conversations if you have planned out an answer that you and your partner are happy with. You can answer the question then change the subject.
Don’t set too high expectations of yourself
It’s a very busy time of year, with Christmas present shopping, food shopping, decorating, seeing family, work parties, finishing work for Christmas… Make manageable to do lists so you don’t get overwhelmed, and make sure you are making time for relaxation and recharging!
